DEWDROPS

I was expecting some guests in the evening over a cup of tea. I went to my kitchen garden to pick up some homegrown vegetables. We have a few beautiful flowers plants in the garden which are in full bloom. I picked a good number of them and kept them in a flower vase in the drawing room to create a good impression before my guests. The room really looked lively with a lot of fragrance and freshness of flowers.

When the guests came they had words of appreciation for the beautiful flowers and wanted to know as to from where had I bought such fresh and beautiful flowers. I really felt elated by the good words and I told that the flowers were from my own garden. In the heat of excitement, I invited all to see my garden. They were all happy to see the green, fresh, and organic vegetables and the flowers and appreciated my gardening skills. There was a very cute baby with the guests. She was looking at the flowers with a strange sense of curiosity. I asked her,” Didn’t you like beautiful flowers, my dear”? “I liked, but why are there very few flowers on the plants, uncle,” She asked. I told her that since I have plucked many that day itself to decorate the drawing room and in a few days more flowers will come on the plants. She didn’t seem satisfied and shot back, “Uncle, the flowers look fine only on their plants and not in the drawing room”. I tried to convince the baby, “Didn’t you like them in the flower vase in the drawing room, my dear”. She retorted, “Uncle, when we had seen plenty of them in the flower vase, then why are you showing us a few on the plants now”. I felt embarrassed,  and then her mother came to my rescue scolding the little angel to stop arguing. “Mom, the teacher says not to pluck flowers as they too have life and they feel a lot of pain”, Shot back the little girl. She continued further and asked me with complete innocence, “Uncle, didn’t your mam ever tell you not to pluck flowers?” I felt ashamed before the little angel and admitted that my teachers too had taught me many times not to pluck flowers or harm the plants. She exclaimed with an innocent gesture by putting her little hand on her mouth, ” Oh! uncle, you didn’t obey your teachers, my God!” Her mother pulled her to her lap and advised her not to argue with the elders. “Sorry uncle”, She said and went inside to play with other children as advised by her mother.

We had tea and after a lot of chit chat the guests left but the impression the little girl created kept rewinding in my mind throughout the night and I couldn’t have a sound sleep. I got up early in the morning and went to the garden to refresh myself. I looked at the flowers but everything didn’t seem to be as usual.

The dewdrops on the petals which used to look like pearls shining under the fresh ray of the sun and displaying different rainbow colors were looking like tears on the cheeks of the flowers.

I had become sentimental by the brave and sane words of the little girl. It appeared as if the flowers had wept out of pain the whole night. I looked at the flowers with love and resentment and tried to kiss them when the tears rolled down their cheeks. This made my eyes wet and with a remorseful voice I whispered: “sorry, I will not harm you again my dear, please forgive me.”

I had become too emotional and I could hear the feeble sobs of the flowers who were hurt, annoyed, and expressing their anger and grief. I could hear them saying, “You man who considers yourself as the top of the God’s creation and very close to Him is actually the cruelest of all the creatures on this planet. You never hesitate to hurt and give pain to any creature in this world including your own race and that too without any meaningful purpose. We wouldn’t mind, had you plucked us for your basic need i.e hunger, but you did it just to decorate your home which you could do with other things without taking any life. It is not only we the plants but you kill rare animals and birds; the finest of God’s creation and hang their skin on the walls and their heads on the pillars of your house as showpieces. You want to show to your fellow men that you are very brave and have hunted such mighty beasts. We do agree that God created everything on this planet for your proper use but certainly not for your misuse. Our cries are not audible and that doesn’t mean that we don’t have pain and feelings. You cut us from our branches and put us in the flower vase with some medicated water which keeps us in a state of coma for a little longer time so that you can enjoy our freshness. It is as if we have been put on a ventilator where we can neither live nor die peacefully but keep on suffering abundance pain. God gave you wisdom with some great purpose but you use it only to show and prove that you are the most clever of all the creatures”.

 They continued, “You are wasting God’s gift i.e the wisdom on negative tendencies and your mind games instead of utilizing the same for the further improvement of your race, character, thinking, and behavior matching God itself. Instead of going up you are going down. You are perhaps the only creature on the earth who don’t contribute to the perseverance of ecology and the balance of nature.NATURE’s EQUILIBRIUM It seems as if you are bent upon turning this beautiful planet to the worst of the hells”.

They continued, ” we provide you the best we have like our beautiful colors, our sweet fragrance, and help in maintaining the delicate balance of nature which supports life of all types including that of yours on the earth. We have nectar in our bosom which we provide to the bees who come to pollinate us and which they convert the same into sweet and nutritious honey for you. Many insects dance around us and produce a sweet humming sound which pleases your ears. we attract nature’s most beautiful butterflies and your children run after them in excitement. We deserve and expect a fair deal in return, but you instead give us a lot of pain and sufferings. Whenever we notice you approaching us we start shivering with fear”.

The feeble words of the voiceless flowers were piercing through my soul. I realized that the innocents are the real braves who have the courage to speak the truth so plainly and with the utmost ease. My mind was restless and cursing me. I promised I will not hurt them again and let them live a full life very peacefully. I assured that I will nurse them with more compassion and love. I slightly touched the cuts/wounds, I gave them the other day. The subtle repentance gave me some relief, and my day passed peacefully. I had a good sleep on that cloudy night. The words of the little angel and the feelings of the flowers had changed my behavior towards other species on this earth.

I got up early in the morning and rushed towards the garden to see the flowers in order to refresh myself. To my utter surprise, the tears appeared to have dried and the flowers too seemed to have passed the night peacefully. The flowers and the new buds that have opened during the night were vacillating by the pleasant breeze that was blowing. they seemed to be free and fearless and inviting me to come and enjoy with them. Their welcome gesture made me believe that they have trusted my words. This gave me an indescribable satisfaction.

HISTORY-A thing of Past and a Lesson to Future.

History is an important subject which no one can afford to ignore if one is really interested in making progress and development in life. Both progress, as well as development,  are relative terms and always need a platform to measure them in any field. This platform is provided by history. Without the availability of an honestly documented history written with an unbiased mind, we can’t compare our yesterdays with our present and would fail to properly plan our future. It is therefore important to have an unbiased history available in order to match our present with our past in order to understand whether we are moving in the right direction of making development and progress in life.

The date of the origin of mankind is not known. All we know is that mankind evolved from lower species and by and by developed to the present form. Evolution from lower species to higher ones also changed his ways of life like thinking, eating, dressing, behaving, fighting, defending, learning, etc. He went on making improvement in all fields of activities by utilizing the resources available to him all around. He went on moving forward from the stone age to the iron age and to the machine age and now to the electronic and atomic age.

Humans, unlike any other species, have an instinct of dissatisfaction always present in them despite all the heavens at their command. Humans are never satisfied with anything and always try to have more and more, may it be physical possessions or other mental attitudes such as enjoyments, pleasures, tastes,  power, command, respect, status, lifestyle, etc. etc. In order to satisfy their ego, they always compare their present with their past. This instinct is the cause of the so-called development and progress of mankind.

The very ancient history seems neither recorded so is not known. Some inscriptions on stones/rocks are not readable or are not decoded for lack of knowledge of the language in which these are written. Anyhow some ancient books considered to be holy by different religions or some fiction books do contain a lot of events or imaginations of historical importance, which have set a goal or a benchmark for developing various items for making life better or easy for the mankind in order to satisfy his lust for power, pleasure, and dominance over one and other.

The description of “Brahamastra”,  and “Agnibaan” during the great battles of Ramayana and Mahabharata seems to have inspired the humans to make atom bombs, long-range guns, intercontinental ballistic missile, and other items of modern warfare. The mantras whispered before firing these deadly arrows may be the secret codes as are used in releasing/firing the modern day missiles and bombs. The reference of “Urhan khatola” and Flying carpet for transport in some fiction books seem to be the base for the invention of airplanes and rockets. Similarly, the inspiration for the invention of television seems to have been taken from the description of the battle of Mahabharata by Sanjaya the advisor to the blind king Dhritarashtra, who had the power to see events at a distance right in front of him. Without being present on the battlefield he narrates all the events of the battle to the blind king in the same way as we see live today on TV. Had those events or the fictional conceptualizations been not recorded in the books as history, the modern gadgets in the present form would not have been possible.

The history of great battle techniques helps in further improvements in modern warfare. The cultural history of dance, music, poetry. paintings, engravings, designing has added to the modern-day fine arts for a better lifestyle.

The history of the old system of medicine, surgery, games, and public administration is the basis for today’s developed systems in these respective fields.

Whatever is happening today will be history tomorrow and the humans by nature would continue moving forward with improvement on the existing systems. They will never be satisfied and will go on craving for more and more development and progress in all physical fields of activity.

The irony is that despite so much struggle for the countless ages for making more and more progress, the human race remains unsatisfied as ever before. It is believed that humans evolved from the lower species and which is the actual progress in the real sense. Now they seem to be stuck up in this human form and there is no further progress. This is the reason for actual frustration and dissatisfaction for him. No efforts are taking him further to a newer and a better form of species. Is the human race the last and final destination? Had it been so, the humans would have been the most satisfied and the happiest lot, which they are not.

The progress for which we toiled for ages has failed to make our life better. If we compare ourselves with the prior races we are as good or as bad as they were.

Still, we are enslaved by greed, anger, hate, intolerance, bias, and complexes of various types. We have not made any progress on the real values of human life.

We, therefore, need to evaluate our thought process and channelize it to make progress and development in the field of values of life which the great Saints, Sufis, and messengers of God taught us. Our motto of life should be love, compassion, universal brotherhood, and tolerance so that we can make this beautiful planet a place worth living. We have to pick up from the history the best things and follow the best examples to make life worth living without any tension and fear or hate and ignore the part which takes us away from these values of life. We need to follow the BEST.

 

 

 

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HAPPINESS

Everyone in this world wants to be happy forever and for attaining happiness they resort to various practices and ways of life. Happiness is a state of mind, an aim, an essence, and in fact fragrance of the life itself. Who would not like this fragrance?. Happiness can’t be achieved in isolation as it depends upon various states of our mind functions such as level of satisfaction, stability, peace, and attitude. All these attributes or mind functions may vary from person to person and hence the level of happiness also differs from person to person despite having similar circumstances.

We do search for happiness in the possessions of wealth little realizing that even the wealthiest of all in the world are more worried than the paupers. We hope to get happiness out of high authority at our command and once we get it we realize that the authority gives more pain than the pleasures. The higher you go, you will not feel cozier, instead, you will feel cooler. ‘Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown’, is an old saying and is very true. Did the great kings or rulers had sound sleep? They were always in constant fear of being dethroned or invaded.

Happiness is therefore neither in wealth, nor in power, nor in high authority or more of possessions, because with every incremental increase in all these worldly things, a corresponding dose of fear of losing them is added to our store of worries.

To attain happiness we seem to be knocking at the wrong doors and treading a slippery path. We, therefore, need to change our attitude and way of life

Since happiness depends on our state of mind so we need to condition our mind and try to keep it stable. We need to learn from those who are happier than us and explore the causes of their happiness. We could hardly find anyone completely happy. Everyone is in search of complete happiness and he tries to derive this from different sources but each source itself is temporary and anything of temporary nature can’t provide a permanent solution for permanent happiness. The only person happier than anyone seems to be a child especially an infant. He has no worries. He gives a smile the moment anyone makes an eye contact with him. When in a mood he will not bother for anyone. He will cry when hungry and will never hide or suppress his feelings. As a child, he will be happier and more satisfied with a candy or a chocolate as his wishes and wants are limited whereas we would fail to derive the similar amount of happiness even if big fortunes are bestowed upon us.

We, on the other hand, have a lot of worries many of which we unnecessarily keep firmly attached to our mind. We are too miser in passing a smile and are biased while sharing the same. We bother too much for everything little realizing that many of them are not within our control and we are worried for them as a matter of habit. We are not open-minded and suppress our feelings. We are never contended with whatever we get and always try to have more. Our wants far exceed( LIFE ) our capacity to fulfill them thus making us unhappy. Hate, prejudice, biases, greed, fear, and feelings of insecurity and the absence of someone who could support us through thick and thin are the main causes of our worries and unhappiness. We do need someone to whom we can look for help. No one will help us without a purpose or a cost. Nothing comes free in this world then how can we expect help or support free of cost or free of an obligation?

The only ONE to whom we can trust for help and support is the CREATOR ie. our UNIVERSAL FATHER. We need to completely surrender before HIS will like a child surrenders before his mother. We must have complete faith in HIM as he will give us whatever is good for us. He will never give us anything which is not to our benefit. Pleasure or pain both come from his will, then why to worry. We should possess a helping attitude COMPASSION. towards everyone without any prejudice as it gives us a lot of satisfaction and happiness.

If there is only happiness in life throughout, we will lose its value and life would become monotonous. Some moments of worries or distress make us understand the values of happiness in a better way. So, do enjoy life with full faith in the CREATOR and always keep a positive mental attitude by avoiding every negative thought. Try to inculcate the attitude of expecting less and giving more as it will keep us more satisfied and happy. We should always think of and focus more on the good things in our life rather than paying more attention to a few worries which come in our lives in a normal routine. If we sincerely count and list out good and bad things in our life we will find that the Creator has given a lot of good things in comparison to the bad things which are very few. Since we pay more heed to and remain constantly focused on the bad things because of our negative mental attitude, so we remain unhappy. On the contrary, if we focus more on positive things in life which outnumber negative ones and ignore these negative ones, we will be happier.

DEVELOPMENT: A PERSPECTIVE

Development is happening in every field around the world for making the life more comfortable for the humans. There is no end to the development as there always remains something more to be achieved. It appears that man wants to achieve complete perfection beyond which there is no further scope for any development.

In order to achieve perfection and complete satisfaction, he is restlessly toiling day and night and running after a mirage; an illusion of satisfaction. This directionless effort is, in fact, making him more and more dissatisfied thus making him wander in the wilderness.

If we just compare the development made during the last few decades, we find that lot of infrastructure such as highways, roads, airways, waterways, railways along with utilities have been developed. More houses, buildings, transport, industry, huge projects are being added to take care of the increasing human population. A lot of development has happened in the agriculture and food industry, power sector, defense, space, energy, education, and health sectors.

Despite all development, we have not been able to eliminate the miseries of this world. Still, people in some part of the world are dying of malnutrition, hunger, and lack of Medicare although there is no shortage of food, medicines, and doctors in this world. We don’t lack resources, we lack compassion and will to help others( COMPASSION ) . We live in very narrow contours of compassion and don’t share our possessions with those who are in need, although every religion of the world teaches us to help the needy.

Unplanned and excessive mining, construction of huge tunnels and roads, railway tracks, over the ground as well as under the ground have definitely disturbed the environment, ecology, and so, the balance of nature. Our planet has an abundance capacity to bear the load and shocks of development but that capacity is not unlimited. It does have a limit, and once we exceed the limit, there is bound to be some reaction and which has started happening.

Mankind is the only race which leaves no stone unturned to pollute the overground, underground, and in the atmosphere resources which in fact are beneficial for him, little realizing that the earth and the atmosphere also have the life which needs nourishment for their sustenance ( SAVE THE EARTH ). Disturbance and destruction beyond a point are bound to compel the earth to react. Why are we blind to these reactions which have started giving their signals in the form of change in weather, unprecedented floods, earthquakes, tsunamis, storms, volcano eruptions, wind and snow storms. Have not we seen mighty mountains crumbling like mounds of sand? The breaking of mountains can cause a temporary blockage of the rivers thus creating huge reservoirs of water and which can create havoc once these temporary blockages give in to the hydraulic pressure created by the stored water. We are unmindfuly polluting the rivers, oceans, and other water bodies which are a lifeline for the entire life on this planet.

Cruelty against nature is bound to produce negative results. We do need crops, plants, water, and trees for a living but we have to keep a balance between the development and destruction of the planet and the atmosphere(  NATURE’s EQUILIBRIUM  ). In the ancient times and even at present, in some leading religions of the world, rivers, lakes, oceans and some trees are considered to be holly and are worshiped. People used to throw coins as an offering in these water bodies. The coins used to be made of copper, silver, or gold and all these metals purify water. Watering the plants was considered as Punya( Sacred deed, virtue ). The purpose of these religious beliefs was to keep water bodies clean and pollution free. Cutting certain trees such as Peepal (Banyan), plants, even their branches was considered a sin. All this was to save and protect the environment and ecology. The love and fear of God were always kept in mind while dealing with the people and the environment. Although all days are alike yet certain days of the week were fixed to be considered as more holy and sacred for special prayers. Only pious deeds were done on these designated days. The purpose was to not let the minds of people lose sight of prayers, good deeds, and to remain connected with the lord for ensuring a blissful living.

In the name of development, we have polluted the atmosphere and made the earth a fragile planet, which is not prepared to bear more disturbance and load. The human’s population is increasing whereas the number of trees is on the decrease. With more roads, buildings, houses, and other infrastructure, the area under green cover is decreasing thus making it difficult to meet the required level of oxygen in the air. It is perhaps due to this factor that the man who considers himself as the most intelligent of all species, is trying to discover life and good environment on other planets in the universe by making huge sacrifices of resources which otherwise can be utilized for making this world as a heaven.

Perhaps we have not understood the true meaning of development. Development should ensure good health for all, a tension free life, contentment, respect, elimination of bias towards anyone, good morals, and a heart full of compassion. All these will make us true human beings and deserve to be called the ‘Top of the creation’. Otherwise, we are as good or as bad as other creatures. Have we achieved this by the way we are making development? More roads, more transport has resulted in more pollution and more accidents. There are more medicines and more qualified doctors yet there are more dangerous and fatal diseases. The number of cancer, heart attacks, and other killer diseases is on the rise. Nations have become rich and strong and have accumulated heavy stocks of weapons of mass destruction. Of what use is this development? This so-called development has changed our perceptions and ways of thinking and beliefs. Corruptions, drinking, telling lies for personal gains, cheating, adultery etc. were considered as the biggest sins but with the development, these sins are considered as a way of modern life and are recognized by the society with esteem.  Real development is an evolution of a better life. We the humans are believed to have evolved from lower species to higher species through a very long period and that is the real development.

We need to divert this direction of development towards a better life, character building and values of life. The lifeline of the human race needs to be protected. All life on this earth to be respected and protected by eliminating pollution of any type. Saving the environment is not the sole responsibility of the state. Everyone has to contribute his bit to this noble cause. Trees should not be cut unless it is extremely unavoidable. We should plant five trees against the cutting of one tree. Everyone must plant at least two trees every year in order to make good the loss already done to the environment. We have to ensure peaceful coexistence between men, animal, and the environment. That will be the development in the real sense.

 

 

COMPASSION.

Compassion is an attribute of God. It is in a way a reflection of God itself. All creatures of this universe possess this attribute of God in one way or the other of different degrees. Some are more compassionate than the others and some may be less but all have traces of this Godly attribute present in them.

Have not we seen a bitch feeding the orphaned kittens along with her own puppies, although cat and dog are arch rivals?. Or a shark taking a helpless drowning dog on her back rescuing him to the shore. This is compassion which is present in all creatures in one or the other form.

Humans who are considered as more closer to God and having this attribute in abundance, but with the over influence of the mind or the Satan or the Shaitan on him, this basic quality remains overshadowed or subdued. We do feel an urge to help the needy when they are in distress or need our help and care and at the same time something takes over on our concern for others and the whole attention gets diverted from the feelings of compassion for others. This negative tendency in the humans who are becoming more self-centred and selfish in the modern times of rush for everything is the real cause for dissatisfaction, tension, and depression in life.

How alighted and satisfied we feel when we are cared for by someone. How happy we are when we are assured and are confident that someone is there to come to our rescue in case of an adversity. This one-way traffic is a sign of sheer selfishness. Can someone else also hope for our help and assistance? Are we mentally and voluntarily prepared to come forward to help others? We must; in case we want to achieve happiness and satisfaction. ‘TREAT OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU’ is an old adage. Love begets love and hate begets hate. As you sow so shall ye reap. It is as such completely in one’s own hands to remain happy and satisfied by reciprocating the same with others.

In case you are interested to taste some abuses or get few slaps on your cheek, go and slap someone or abuse someone and see the results. The results would be surprising, as you may get your choicest abuses showered on you as well as a volley of slaps on your cheeks to your complete satisfaction. This is an example of reaction to which we all are subjected to. We don’t have or we don’t maintain our own characteristics and qualities but our life and actions have become a  mere reaction. We always react not act and this reaction produces heat, hatred, and animosity which is a cause of frustration, dissatisfaction, and depression for us. REAL PLEASURE AND SATISFACTION COMES BY GIVING, FORGIVING AND CARING FOR OTHERS AND NEVER BY HOPING AND  WISHING TO BE RECEIVING  AND BEING CARED  BY OTHERS.

Forgive and Forget is the mantra for a happy life. In the circumstances when someone abuses and frowns upon you, maybe for any reason, and instead of reacting with double the force which is bound to create a chain reaction, if you just control yourself, force a pleasant smile on your face and beg pardon from the other person, although for no fault of yours; just feel the experience. Your opponent will feel ashamed for his behaviour towards you. Embrace him and give him a warm hug and a loving pat. It may seem to be very difficult but the results are amazing. An intellectual person has said, ” If there is one fool let there be not two”. Always try to avoid situations which result in exchanging of heated arguments and ultimate quarrels. Always try to have a compassionate feeling and attitude towards others. This makes life easier for you as well as for others.

We should never fail in our duty to help others as long as we live. Compassion turns the deadliest foes into friends. We should continue increasing our area of compassion throughout our life. This would create an atmosphere of peace all around us. Kindness doesn’t cost anything but instead, it gives us a lot of satisfaction and peace of mind. There should never be any dearth of love and compassion in our heart for anyone without any discrimination of caste, colour, or race.

No one has ever achieved peace and satisfaction by amassing wealth or by owning huge stocks of worldly materials by working day and night like a slave, contrarily he becomes more greedy in the mad race of more and more material. For doing this we sacrifice the lofty principles of life and become more distressed and dissatisfied. None in this world has ever achieved peace, satisfaction, and happiness out of the materialistic possessions as the lust for the same never gets satisfied. We become slaves of the possessions and not their masters. We should never fail in our duty to help the needy and our heart should start melting with the passion of compassion for those who need our attention and help. This feeling will burn any negativity from our mind and give us a lot of satisfaction.

A compassionate heart brings us closer to God who is an embodiment of love, peace, and tranquillity. We need to behave better than any other creature in this universe only then will we really deserve to be called humans. Only compassion and love will bring satisfaction to the hearts and peace in the world.

 

 

THE DESERTED MANSIONS

From the time immemorial, Man has been building big mansions to live in happily for himself and for the generations to come. He has been building big castles and strong forts for his safety and security.

But has he achieved his desired objectives? If we look at those huge ruins today, we find the dwellers missing. These deserted mansions are dying slowly but steadily. Have the strong forts and big castles saved his life from death?

All these huge buildings are decaying, crumbling, and being consumed by insects as there is no one to take care of them. Wild bushes and big trees have taken roots in their sturdy walls and roofs. Once magnificent mansions, have now become a home for the rats, bats, vampires, cats, and monkeys. Some of these, once beautiful structures, are now haunted by the ghosts. The beautiful and priceless paintings in the magnificent halls and rooms are covered with spider webs and dust; no one to appreciate their beauty and take care of their maintenance. Has the person who got them built with so much wealth and passion, ever thought of the fate, his proud possessions would one day meet with such a pitiable condition? If by chance he again comes to human life with all his old passion and memory and visits his choicest possessions: Can anyone imagine how he would feel? He would definitely repent as to why he committed such a great blunder in his life……

Humans have the tendency of ignoring the history and trying to derive satisfaction and happiness from the huge possessions. Instead of achieving satisfaction and happiness from the possessions, they become restless while creating such possessions. Their cravings for more and more keep them toiling restlessly and sometimes they have to sacrifice the values of life and good principles of humanity. How can one derive happiness and satisfaction by such means? This is the dilemma of life and a Mirage which keeps one running until the end.

Happiness and satisfaction are not in the possessions, but these are in the contentment. A man with a contented heart is the richest of all and the one with greed and discontented heart is worst than a beggar even if he has abundant of wealth. We should take a lesson from the history and lead a simple and contented life and should always thank the Almighty for whatever he has bestowed upon us.

Whatever you can use in your life is actually yours. What you keep on possessing without using is a waste; for others to use. One keeps on building mansions, forgetting that lifespan is very short and he may not get the opportunity to enjoy his living in those mansions which he created with so much toil.

If we take a look at the present times, nothing seems to have changed. There is no dearth of big mansions which are empty as there is no one to live in. Those for whom, their ancestors had built these huge buildings have either migrated to other cities or abroad for their living.

We care more about our future generations than for ourselves, little realizing that if we are able enough to live our life comfortably as per socialistic and societal standards , will our future generation not be able to do anything for themselves? Why such a negative thought takes root in our mind? If we could do something ourselves, Our future generations would do better than us. With such a positive attitude, live your life happily lest you may have to repent afterward.

PAINS OF RETIRED LIFE

Pleasures and pains go side by side. Every coin has two sides. The day is followed by night and winters by summers. Everything attracts its opposite and the cycle of nature goes on moving. Nothing remains stationary in this world. Change is the secret which sustains life. Changes may be positive or negative and we have to bear both with a bowed head as there is no escape.

The pains of retired life is a mix of crunches of both retired life and of old age because incidentally, the retirement generally happens at a comparatively advanced stage of the age. The pleasures and sense of freedom one can enjoy under certain circumstances is already discussed in the previous blog published on 9th Feb,2018. The pains of retired life/old age can be :-

  • Health issues of self and that of the spouse.
  • Change in attitude of associates, relatives, and friends towards you.
  • No pension or inadequate pension to meet day to day needs.
  • No one to take care in case of an emergency.
  • Pending family settlements and liabilities.
  • Children not suitably settled.
  • Depression because there is no work to substantiate abundant free time.

The only solution to all these problems is to live to the will of Lord and change your own attitude towards life. We are not the masters of everything and might not be destined to finish every so-called liability during our lifetime. There is always something pending for others to complete or accomplish.

Life is full of struggles from day one until the end. We did struggle to speak, sit, crawl, and walk when we were infants. Struggle for learning, understanding various fields and activities kept us engaged throughout our school to college and university days. We further intensified our struggle to build our careers. And now at this old age, Can we avoid making struggles? We have to continue struggling until the end with a Positive Mental Attitude.

The sufferings and pains are part of life for all of us. Health issues are a cause for concern especially at the old age when many vital organs get fatigued, become weak and can’t give the required output to keep our body healthy. Our body is a very complicated machine and consists of thousands of working parts and millions of cells. These have been working tirelessly for so many years. Parts of any machine do get worn out and need replacement, which in case of the human body are a  very costly affair and in some cases not possible. We have to bear with this, as there is no other way out. It is advisable to get medical insurance done in order to take care of heavy expenses in case of an emergency.

After one is out of power he should not expect his associates, relatives, and friends to flock him the way they were doing when he was in power. Our relationships of all types are because of some need or dependence which is a bitter truth. Once that need is fulfilled or we lose the capacity to meet people’s needs, they will start disassociating from us, in the same manner, we did with our associates, relatives, and friends when they lost power or capacity to help us. Needs and interests are the basis of many relationships with few exceptions.  Who will then come to our rescue in such state of affairs in this world? Only Lord is our hope. He loves us more than anybody else and that too without any expectations from us. SO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE, DO NOT CARRY BAGGAGE,  FACE THE SITUATION WITH POSITIVE MINDSET, AND LEAVE EVERYTHING TO THE WILL OF LORD. Unnecessarily taking these things seriously will only make you more uncomfortable leading to Stress or Depression. Ignore people who ignore you and stop bothering about them.

You must make financial arrangements for the rainy days of your life while in active service/job. You are bound to suffer humiliation in case you don’t have regular and adequate resources to meet your needs. Stay with your children or relatives if you can manage or go to an old age home. All of us have to bear our KARMAS; no escape. Your children or close relative may not be able to devote more time to you because of their own compulsions. Stay calm and contended and thank GOD that at least they are with you.

Settle your liabilities well in time otherwise, you will remain worrying when you will become unable to settle them. You can’t make hay when the sun is not shining. Try your best to settle your children well in time. However, if you could not do, don’t worry as your worry will not help. It will only add more wrinkles to your face and help you to increase your stress, blood pressure, and depression. You played your inning well and now it is their turn to earn and take care of you.

Please understand that all of us have to pass through pleasures and pains while we are in this human body. We have to bear our own Cross as this world is run by one universal principle ‘AS YOU SO, SO SHALL YOU REAP’. When Lord Rama, Lord Krishna, Hazrat Mohammad Sahib(PBUH), Guru Nanak Dev Ji and other Gurus suffered and fought battles with the evil, how can you be an exception? During the battle of Mahabharat Pandavas fought with their own brothers; The Kauravas. This signifies that the evil is within us and we have to fight it within. Arjun the great warrior surrendered to Lord Krishna and gave the reins of his chariot to Him and shot arrows in the direction Lord Krishna moved the chariot. Have we ever surrendered control of the chariot of our life to Lord and fought the battle of life ourselves? Instead, we hold the reins in our hands and want the Lord to fight for us. This will not work.  We have to live up to His will and remain satisfied because both pains and pleasures come with His will.

The Fifth Sikh Guru, Guru Arjan Dev Ji Maharaj, was being tortured by making him sit on the hot iron plate and boiling water was poured on his head and before being martyred, you know what he said? “Tera bhana meetha lage”, Means “Oh my Lord All this is happening with your will and your will is sweet to me”.

When Jesus Christ was mercilessly tortured before being crucified, He prayed to GOD and said,”O GOD forgive them because they don’t know what they are doing”. This is the level of tolerance that is expected for attaining peace and tranquility.

 

So, remain contended in whatever circumstances the Lord keeps you. He will always give us what is to our benefit; a chocolate or a bitter medicine. He knows well, so don’t fear or worry even about your death. You don’t have much time at your disposal so live to the hour. No time to worry. Keep on doing good and remain happy. Let God worry about you.