PARENTING AND GRANDPARENTING. PART- 2

As already discussed in part-1, parenting and grandparenting never cease to exist till we live; these only undergo a change from one to the other. The attachment (Moh) with children is responsible for the propagation of life on this planet. Just think for a while, if the parents don’t care about the new-born babies, the life will come to an end. Nature creates attachment in the hearts of parents and grandparents for the baby before he or she takes birth. From day one nature provides the new-born with two permanent and dedicated caretakers in the form of mother and father, who sacrifice their everything for the upbringing of their child. Nature creates milk in the breasts of the mother on the birth of new-born so that he can be fed till he is able to take solid food. The moment he needs solid food,  nature gives teeth to the baby and when he needs more hard food, the delicate milk teeth are replaced automatically with the set of hard teeth. Nature has its own way of working and it works through the medium of its creation.

Anyway, the aim of good parenting is to shape the future of the child in such a way that he is able to face the world with courage and contribute a lot to the welfare of the future generations as well as to the nation, and to the mankind.

The initial five years of child’s life are very crucial. He makes a lot of efforts to learn to speak, sit, stand, walk, play, interact and understand many things including pre-nursery education. By nature, he is a keen watcher and a fast learner, parents have therefore to be very cautious about their child. No quarreling, no shouting, no harsh words, no punishments for and before your child. Always remain positive, friendly, and cool before him. Teach him to respect elders, socialize with people, obey elders, avoid arguments, give suitable time to his studies and playing games. He should be taught, rather encouraged to share his toys and eatables with other family members and friends. Sharing and caring can be taught only at this age. When he is to go to school, do take care of his health and hygiene. Teach him to wash hands before and after meals, clean his nose whenever required with a handkerchief. Do help him in taking bath and using the toilet till he learns to do the same.

From the sixth year onwards the child learns a lot about his family, relatives, friends, and surroundings. The child at this stage needs to be disciplined and his thought and energies properly channelized. He should be encouraged to follow a proper daily routine, like going to bed, getting up early, a little morning walk or exercise, taking a bath, getting ready for school in time, checking his school bag to ensure that all necessary books, notebooks, lunchbox, water bottle etc are properly kept inside. After school, do interact with him to make him comfortable so that before taking his meals he is off from the school fatigue. Help him in getting fresh and in changing his clothes. Give him time for playing, watching a programme of his choice on TV, help him in completing his homework. Both parents, as well as grandparents, should be quite friendly with them and understand their weaknesses and strong points, as only then they will be in a position to provide good counseling and support for the overall development in their child’s character and behavior. They should take care, recognize, and appreciate the interests and choices of their children. The children at this stage must be made to understand the difference between a good and a bad touch as well as the way to react in case of such an eventuality. 

During the period of juvenility, there is an element of the immaturity of thought and conduct in the behavior of a child. This period is very crucial in the life of a child. Parents, as well as grandparents, need to keep a strict and secret watch on the behavior and activities of their child especially in the present times when everything is available on the internet with the press of a button. Give more time to the child, be more friendly with them and keep them engaged in studies, games, and other extracurricular activities so that they don’t remain idle. It is always advisable to engage the child in the decision making on small family issues and give recognition to their point of view so that they feel their importance and remain attached to the family. Please remember that an idle man’s brain is devil’s workshop. Don’t let his mind become a Devil’s workshop. This is a stage when the parents may have to be strict sometimes in order to discipline their child. The old proverb  ‘Spare the rod and spoil the child’ is to be kept in mind by the parents. The grandparents at this stage should not interfere with the hard decisions of the child’s parents and rather should keep cool.

Parents have sometimes to take tough decisions in the interests of their child and the child being more close and comfortable with the grandparents, may try to attract their sympathies and support in order to oppose the decision and behavior of his parents towards him. Grandparents should never support the child, instead, they should, politely and with love, try to make the child understand the point of view of his parents and support the view in the overall interests of the child.

Once the child becomes major and completes his education, do provide him support and guidance for choosing and starting his career……………   Then the marriage of the child and his life takes a new turn. Shortly the parents will become grandparents and the grandparents will become great-grandparents or the Gone-grandparents and the Life will keep on changing positions. Please keep on passing the family values and traditions to the future generations. Family traditions and the family values are the roots which must remain strong to keep the family tree growing and developing.

THE DESERTED MANSIONS

From the time immemorial, Man has been building big mansions to live in happily for himself and for the generations to come. He has been building big castles and strong forts for his safety and security.

But has he achieved his desired objectives? If we look at those huge ruins today, we find the dwellers missing. These deserted mansions are dying slowly but steadily. Have the strong forts and big castles saved his life from death?

All these huge buildings are decaying, crumbling, and being consumed by insects as there is no one to take care of them. Wild bushes and big trees have taken roots in their sturdy walls and roofs. Once magnificent mansions, have now become a home for the rats, bats, vampires, cats, and monkeys. Some of these, once beautiful structures, are now haunted by the ghosts. The beautiful and priceless paintings in the magnificent halls and rooms are covered with spider webs and dust; no one to appreciate their beauty and take care of their maintenance. Has the person who got them built with so much wealth and passion, ever thought of the fate, his proud possessions would one day meet with such a pitiable condition? If by chance he again comes to human life with all his old passion and memory and visits his choicest possessions: Can anyone imagine how he would feel? He would definitely repent as to why he committed such a great blunder in his life……

Humans have the tendency of ignoring the history and trying to derive satisfaction and happiness from the huge possessions. Instead of achieving satisfaction and happiness from the possessions, they become restless while creating such possessions. Their cravings for more and more keep them toiling restlessly and sometimes they have to sacrifice the values of life and good principles of humanity. How can one derive happiness and satisfaction by such means? This is the dilemma of life and a Mirage which keeps one running until the end.

Happiness and satisfaction are not in the possessions, but these are in the contentment. A man with a contented heart is the richest of all and the  one with greed and discontented heart is worst than a beggar even if he has abundant of wealth. We should take a lesson from the history and lead a simple and contented life and should always thank the Almighty for whatever he has bestowed upon us.

Whatever you can use in your life is actually yours. What you keep on possessing without using is a waste; for others to use. One keeps on building mansions, forgetting that lifespan is very short and he may not get the opportunity to enjoy his living in those mansions which he created with so much toil.

If we take a look at the present times, nothing seems to have changed. There is no dearth of big mansions which are empty as there is no one to live in. Those for whom, their ancestors had built these huge buildings have either migrated to other cities or abroad for their living.

We care more about our future generations than for ourselves,  little realizing that if we are able enough to live our life comfortably as per socialistic and societal standards , will our  future generation not be able to do anything for themselves? Why such a negative thought takes root in our mind? If we could do something ourselves, Our future generations would do better than us. With such a positive attitude, live your life happily lest you may have to repent afterward.

NATURE’s EQUILIBRIUM

We The Humans, who claim to be the finest of God’s creations and the most civilized ones; are in fact lacking many qualities which others creatures in lower forms of life have. We claim that we trust God but the fact is, that we don’t trust him fully.

No other creature on this planet is as dexterous as Humans when it comes to securing the tomorrow needs. We keep on hoarding as much wealth and other materialistic things as possible for us whereas all other creatures have full faith in HIM-The Almighty that he will arrange food for them when required. Humans are the only species on this globe which cultivates crops and other victual item but we accumulate them and don’t like to share with other Fellow Humans.

Have your ever observed the behavior of Crows when they find Food; the Crows start crowing loudly, inviting all the fellow crows to come and share the food with them.

This Ungenerous Human behavior is out of fear as to what will happen if there is no Food left on earth tomorrow. Have we ever thought when God takes care of the whole universe and its creatures, how can he forget to take care of a race which is most near and dear to him? Are we not prodigal sons? You must have heard of a prodigal son but have you ever heard of a prodigal father?

We kill birds, animals, reptiles for our food and don’t even hesitate to kill humans during wars or otherwise in order to prove our supremacy over others. Animals also kill but they kill to satisfy their hunger. We the humans resort to organized killings of our own race just because of anger, hate, and, intolerance and for that, we produce lethal weapons, ammunition, ballistic missiles, intercontinental missiles, atom bombs and other weapons of Mass Destruction. There is no other field where we have made as much progress as we have made in the creation of instruments of Mass Destruction. We explode crackers, bombs and other fireworks to mark celebrations which in turn creates a lot of pollution. Use of Air conditioners, Heaters, Automobiles, Airplanes, Electronic gadgets, and Chemical factories create a lot of pollution and contribute to Global Warming, which is a cause of worry for all of us. We all understand the consequences of increasing pollution and Global Warming. The world community also seems concerned about this danger and this issue is the hot topic of discussion these days in almost all the Highest Forums but Have we stopped manufacturing and using the items which create Pollution and Global Warming? The answer certainly is a big “NO”. WE THE DESCENDANTS OF ADAM AND EVE ARE USED TO EATING THE FORBIDDEN FRUITS. The man has already created holes in the Ozone layer and stockpiled atomic weapons. We have not even stopped the further production and God forbid if these go off at any time, then what will happen is well known to all of us.

God loves us all more than we love him so He will never bring “ROZ-E- QAYAMAT” OR GREAT DISSOLUTION. Its only we the so called Humans, will be responsible for it.

Huge resources are consumed for satisfying our urge to have supremacy in the field of the destruction of our own race. These resources if used for the welfare of mankind can remove poverty from the globe forever. We produce and use pesticides, insecticides and chemical fertilizers to kill pests and insects in order to produce more crop and fruits, little realizing that it adversely affects our own health as well as the fertility of the soil. All other creatures live upon natural products and that too in very less number, but can you just make a guess as to how many items we need for our daily life. The number may go up to thousands; and then the way we cook, fry, roast, bake, marinate and so on and so on….with no end. We eat for taste and not for nutrition. The end result is DISEASES and AILMENTS and in order to treat these, we consume more chemical compounds in form of MEDICINES; bitter enough to neutralize the taste we had from our choicest cuisines. Medicines do cure but have many adverse effects on our Body. We need doctors and surgeons to take care of our health. Do any other creatures need all this? Who takes care of them? It is only LORD because they trust and have full faith in HIM.

God designed this beautiful creation and asked mankind to go and enjoy his creation. He has created everything for us, but certainly not for any misuse or for the destruction of his beautiful creation, or for disturbing the beautiful balance of nature. If we disturb the balance of nature, nature will react and disturb our balance, leading to a catastrophe. Every other creature except humans contributes to the maintenance of Ecological and Environmental balance but we the Humans, who despite having the Super-intelligence bestowed upon us by our LORD, leave no stone un-turned to disturb it.

Why can’t we trust and realize his scheme of things? Don’t we see his beautiful Water Management System? He creates conditions to convert water into clouds, transports it from the oceans to the whole of the globe. Again reconverts it into the water for maintaining the ecology,  environment, and life on the globe. He fills all reservoirs like ponds, lakes etc. for our future use and also creates reserves in the form of snow and glaciers. He created a mixture of useful gases around the globe for sustaining life. He kept minerals in the bosom of the earth for creating a balance and for our proper use. Is the magnificent gravitational force which keeps us comfortably bound to the earth, not a miracle? Why the gravitational force is not present on other planets? Is it not that wonderful? Humans were bestowed with the sense of comprehension to realize GOD but they are misusing this intellect to disturb His beautiful creation.

Still, there is time to listen to his commandments and imbibe the qualities of the Creator and stop listening to the voice of SATAN or SHAITAAN i.e. the negative energies surrounding us. The natural state of this God designed System is the perfect state and it is the best for us to leave it undisturbed. We need to mend our ways and make life worth living peacefully and with a lot of Happiness and Bliss.