DEWDROPS

I was expecting some guests in the evening over a cup of tea. I went to my kitchen garden to pick up some homegrown vegetables. We have a few beautiful flowers plants in the garden which are in full bloom. I picked a good number of them and kept them in a flower vase in the drawing room to create a good impression before my guests. The room really looked lively with a lot of fragrance and freshness of flowers.

When the guests came they had words of appreciation for the beautiful flowers and wanted to know as to from where had I bought such fresh and beautiful flowers. I really felt elated by the good words and I told that the flowers were from my own garden. In the heat of excitement, I invited all to see my garden. They were all happy to see the green, fresh, and organic vegetables and the flowers and appreciated my gardening skills. There was a very cute baby with the guests. She was looking at the flowers with a strange sense of curiosity. I asked her,” Didn’t you like beautiful flowers, my dear”? “I liked, but why are there very few flowers on the plants, uncle,” She asked. I told her that since I have plucked many that day itself to decorate the drawing room and in a few days more flowers will come on the plants. She didn’t seem satisfied and shot back, “Uncle, the flowers look fine only on their plants and not in the drawing room”. I tried to convince the baby, “Didn’t you like them in the flower vase in the drawing room, my dear”. She retorted, “Uncle, when we had seen plenty of them in the flower vase, then why are you showing us a few on the plants now”. I felt embarrassed,  and then her mother came to my rescue scolding the little angel to stop arguing. “Mom, the teacher says not to pluck flowers as they too have life and they feel a lot of pain”, Shot back the little girl. She continued further and asked me with complete innocence, “Uncle, didn’t your mam ever tell you not to pluck flowers?” I felt ashamed before the little angel and admitted that my teachers too had taught me many times not to pluck flowers or harm the plants. She exclaimed with an innocent gesture by putting her little hand on her mouth, ” Oh! uncle, you didn’t obey your teachers, my God!” Her mother pulled her to her lap and advised her not to argue with the elders. “Sorry uncle”, She said and went inside to play with other children as advised by her mother.

We had tea and after a lot of chit chat the guests left but the impression the little girl created kept rewinding in my mind throughout the night and I couldn’t have a sound sleep. I got up early in the morning and went to the garden to refresh myself. I looked at the flowers but everything didn’t seem to be as usual.

The dewdrops on the petals which used to look like pearls shining under the fresh ray of the sun and displaying different rainbow colors were looking like tears on the cheeks of the flowers.

I had become sentimental by the brave and sane words of the little girl. It appeared as if the flowers had wept out of pain the whole night. I looked at the flowers with love and resentment and tried to kiss them when the tears rolled down their cheeks. This made my eyes wet and with a remorseful voice I whispered: “sorry, I will not harm you again my dear, please forgive me.”

I had become too emotional and I could hear the feeble sobs of the flowers who were hurt, annoyed, and expressing their anger and grief. I could hear them saying, “You man who considers yourself as the top of the God’s creation and very close to Him is actually the cruelest of all the creatures on this planet. You never hesitate to hurt and give pain to any creature in this world including your own race and that too without any meaningful purpose. We wouldn’t mind, had you plucked us for your basic need i.e hunger, but you did it just to decorate your home which you could do with other things without taking any life. It is not only we the plants but you kill rare animals and birds; the finest of God’s creation and hang their skin on the walls and their heads on the pillars of your house as showpieces. You want to show to your fellow men that you are very brave and have hunted such mighty beasts. We do agree that God created everything on this planet for your proper use but certainly not for your misuse. Our cries are not audible and that doesn’t mean that we don’t have pain and feelings. You cut us from our branches and put us in the flower vase with some medicated water which keeps us in a state of coma for a little longer time so that you can enjoy our freshness. It is as if we have been put on a ventilator where we can neither live nor die peacefully but keep on suffering abundance pain. God gave you wisdom with some great purpose but you use it only to show and prove that you are the most clever of all the creatures”.

 They continued, “You are wasting God’s gift i.e the wisdom on negative tendencies and your mind games instead of utilizing the same for the further improvement of your race, character, thinking, and behavior matching God itself. Instead of going up you are going down. You are perhaps the only creature on the earth who don’t contribute to the perseverance of ecology and the balance of nature.NATURE’s EQUILIBRIUM It seems as if you are bent upon turning this beautiful planet to the worst of the hells”.

They continued, ” we provide you the best we have like our beautiful colors, our sweet fragrance, and help in maintaining the delicate balance of nature which supports life of all types including that of yours on the earth. We have nectar in our bosom which we provide to the bees who come to pollinate us and which they convert the same into sweet and nutritious honey for you. Many insects dance around us and produce a sweet humming sound which pleases your ears. we attract nature’s most beautiful butterflies and your children run after them in excitement. We deserve and expect a fair deal in return, but you instead give us a lot of pain and sufferings. Whenever we notice you approaching us we start shivering with fear”.

The feeble words of the voiceless flowers were piercing through my soul. I realized that the innocents are the real braves who have the courage to speak the truth so plainly and with the utmost ease. My mind was restless and cursing me. I promised I will not hurt them again and let them live a full life very peacefully. I assured that I will nurse them with more compassion and love. I slightly touched the cuts/wounds, I gave them the other day. The subtle repentance gave me some relief, and my day passed peacefully. I had a good sleep on that cloudy night. The words of the little angel and the feelings of the flowers had changed my behavior towards other species on this earth.

I got up early in the morning and rushed towards the garden to see the flowers in order to refresh myself. To my utter surprise, the tears appeared to have dried and the flowers too seemed to have passed the night peacefully. The flowers and the new buds that have opened during the night were vacillating by the pleasant breeze that was blowing. they seemed to be free and fearless and inviting me to come and enjoy with them. Their welcome gesture made me believe that they have trusted my words. This gave me an indescribable satisfaction.

DEVELOPMENT: A PERSPECTIVE

Development is happening in every field around the world for making the life more comfortable for the humans. There is no end to the development as there always remains something more to be achieved. It appears that man wants to achieve complete perfection beyond which there is no further scope for any development.

In order to achieve perfection and complete satisfaction, he is restlessly toiling day and night and running after a mirage; an illusion of satisfaction. This directionless effort is, in fact, making him more and more dissatisfied thus making him wander in the wilderness.

If we just compare the development made during the last few decades, we find that lot of infrastructure such as highways, roads, airways, waterways, railways along with utilities have been developed. More houses, buildings, transport, industry, huge projects are being added to take care of the increasing human population. A lot of development has happened in the agriculture and food industry, power sector, defense, space, energy, education, and health sectors.

Despite all development, we have not been able to eliminate the miseries of this world. Still, people in some part of the world are dying of malnutrition, hunger, and lack of Medicare although there is no shortage of food, medicines, and doctors in this world. We don’t lack resources, we lack compassion and will to help others( COMPASSION ) . We live in very narrow contours of compassion and don’t share our possessions with those who are in need, although every religion of the world teaches us to help the needy.

Unplanned and excessive mining, construction of huge tunnels and roads, railway tracks, over the ground as well as under the ground have definitely disturbed the environment, ecology, and so, the balance of nature. Our planet has an abundance capacity to bear the load and shocks of development but that capacity is not unlimited. It does have a limit, and once we exceed the limit, there is bound to be some reaction and which has started happening.

Mankind is the only race which leaves no stone unturned to pollute the overground, underground, and in the atmosphere resources which in fact are beneficial for him, little realizing that the earth and the atmosphere also have the life which needs nourishment for their sustenance ( SAVE THE EARTH ). Disturbance and destruction beyond a point are bound to compel the earth to react. Why are we blind to these reactions which have started giving their signals in the form of change in weather, unprecedented floods, earthquakes, tsunamis, storms, volcano eruptions, wind and snow storms. Have not we seen mighty mountains crumbling like mounds of sand? The breaking of mountains can cause a temporary blockage of the rivers thus creating huge reservoirs of water and which can create havoc once these temporary blockages give in to the hydraulic pressure created by the stored water. We are unmindfuly polluting the rivers, oceans, and other water bodies which are a lifeline for the entire life on this planet.

Cruelty against nature is bound to produce negative results. We do need crops, plants, water, and trees for a living but we have to keep a balance between the development and destruction of the planet and the atmosphere(  NATURE’s EQUILIBRIUM  ). In the ancient times and even at present, in some leading religions of the world, rivers, lakes, oceans and some trees are considered to be holly and are worshiped. People used to throw coins as an offering in these water bodies. The coins used to be made of copper, silver, or gold and all these metals purify water. Watering the plants was considered as Punya( Sacred deed, virtue ). The purpose of these religious beliefs was to keep water bodies clean and pollution free. Cutting certain trees such as Peepal (Banyan), plants, even their branches was considered a sin. All this was to save and protect the environment and ecology. The love and fear of God were always kept in mind while dealing with the people and the environment. Although all days are alike yet certain days of the week were fixed to be considered as more holy and sacred for special prayers. Only pious deeds were done on these designated days. The purpose was to not let the minds of people lose sight of prayers, good deeds, and to remain connected with the lord for ensuring a blissful living.

In the name of development, we have polluted the atmosphere and made the earth a fragile planet, which is not prepared to bear more disturbance and load. The human’s population is increasing whereas the number of trees is on the decrease. With more roads, buildings, houses, and other infrastructure, the area under green cover is decreasing thus making it difficult to meet the required level of oxygen in the air. It is perhaps due to this factor that the man who considers himself as the most intelligent of all species, is trying to discover life and good environment on other planets in the universe by making huge sacrifices of resources which otherwise can be utilized for making this world as a heaven.

Perhaps we have not understood the true meaning of development. Development should ensure good health for all, a tension free life, contentment, respect, elimination of bias towards anyone, good morals, and a heart full of compassion. All these will make us true human beings and deserve to be called the ‘Top of the creation’. Otherwise, we are as good or as bad as other creatures. Have we achieved this by the way we are making development? More roads, more transport has resulted in more pollution and more accidents. There are more medicines and more qualified doctors yet there are more dangerous and fatal diseases. The number of cancer, heart attacks, and other killer diseases is on the rise. Nations have become rich and strong and have accumulated heavy stocks of weapons of mass destruction. Of what use is this development? This so-called development has changed our perceptions and ways of thinking and beliefs. Corruptions, drinking, telling lies for personal gains, cheating, adultery etc. were considered as the biggest sins but with the development, these sins are considered as a way of modern life and are recognized by the society with esteem.  Real development is an evolution of a better life. We the humans are believed to have evolved from lower species to higher species through a very long period and that is the real development.

We need to divert this direction of development towards a better life, character building and values of life. The lifeline of the human race needs to be protected. All life on this earth to be respected and protected by eliminating pollution of any type. Saving the environment is not the sole responsibility of the state. Everyone has to contribute his bit to this noble cause. Trees should not be cut unless it is extremely unavoidable. We should plant five trees against the cutting of one tree. Everyone must plant at least two trees every year in order to make good the loss already done to the environment. We have to ensure peaceful coexistence between men, animal, and the environment. That will be the development in the real sense.

 

 

COMPASSION.

Compassion is an attribute of God. It is in a way a reflection of God itself. All creatures of this universe possess this attribute of God in one way or the other of different degrees. Some are more compassionate than the others and some may be less but all have traces of this Godly attribute present in them.

Have not we seen a bitch feeding the orphaned kittens along with her own puppies, although cat and dog are arch rivals?. Or a shark taking a helpless drowning dog on her back rescuing him to the shore. This is compassion which is present in all creatures in one or the other form.

Humans who are considered as more closer to God and having this attribute in abundance, but with the over influence of the mind or the Satan or the Shaitan on him, this basic quality remains overshadowed or subdued. We do feel an urge to help the needy when they are in distress or need our help and care and at the same time something takes over on our concern for others and the whole attention gets diverted from the feelings of compassion for others. This negative tendency in the humans who are becoming more self-centred and selfish in the modern times of rush for everything is the real cause for dissatisfaction, tension, and depression in life.

How alighted and satisfied we feel when we are cared for by someone. How happy we are when we are assured and are confident that someone is there to come to our rescue in case of an adversity. This one-way traffic is a sign of sheer selfishness. Can someone else also hope for our help and assistance? Are we mentally and voluntarily prepared to come forward to help others? We must; in case we want to achieve happiness and satisfaction. ‘TREAT OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU’ is an old adage. Love begets love and hate begets hate. As you sow so shall ye reap. It is as such completely in one’s own hands to remain happy and satisfied by reciprocating the same with others.

In case you are interested to taste some abuses or get few slaps on your cheek, go and slap someone or abuse someone and see the results. The results would be surprising, as you may get your choicest abuses showered on you as well as a volley of slaps on your cheeks to your complete satisfaction. This is an example of reaction to which we all are subjected to. We don’t have or we don’t maintain our own characteristics and qualities but our life and actions have become a  mere reaction. We always react not act and this reaction produces heat, hatred, and animosity which is a cause of frustration, dissatisfaction, and depression for us. REAL PLEASURE AND SATISFACTION COMES BY GIVING, FORGIVING AND CARING FOR OTHERS AND NEVER BY HOPING AND  WISHING TO BE RECEIVING  AND BEING CARED  BY OTHERS.

Forgive and Forget is the mantra for a happy life. In the circumstances when someone abuses and frowns upon you, maybe for any reason, and instead of reacting with double the force which is bound to create a chain reaction, if you just control yourself, force a pleasant smile on your face and beg pardon from the other person, although for no fault of yours; just feel the experience. Your opponent will feel ashamed for his behaviour towards you. Embrace him and give him a warm hug and a loving pat. It may seem to be very difficult but the results are amazing. An intellectual person has said, ” If there is one fool let there be not two”. Always try to avoid situations which result in exchanging of heated arguments and ultimate quarrels. Always try to have a compassionate feeling and attitude towards others. This makes life easier for you as well as for others.

We should never fail in our duty to help others as long as we live. Compassion turns the deadliest foes into friends. We should continue increasing our area of compassion throughout our life. This would create an atmosphere of peace all around us. Kindness doesn’t cost anything but instead, it gives us a lot of satisfaction and peace of mind. There should never be any dearth of love and compassion in our heart for anyone without any discrimination of caste, colour, or race.

No one has ever achieved peace and satisfaction by amassing wealth or by owning huge stocks of worldly materials by working day and night like a slave, contrarily he becomes more greedy in the mad race of more and more material. For doing this we sacrifice the lofty principles of life and become more distressed and dissatisfied. None in this world has ever achieved peace, satisfaction, and happiness out of the materialistic possessions as the lust for the same never gets satisfied. We become slaves of the possessions and not their masters. We should never fail in our duty to help the needy and our heart should start melting with the passion of compassion for those who need our attention and help. This feeling will burn any negativity from our mind and give us a lot of satisfaction.

A compassionate heart brings us closer to God who is an embodiment of love, peace, and tranquillity. We need to behave better than any other creature in this universe only then will we really deserve to be called humans. Only compassion and love will bring satisfaction to the hearts and peace in the world.

 

 

SAVE THE EARTH

Earth is one of the wonderful planets of this Universe which is bestowed with all the ingredients and attributes for the growth and sustaining of the life of all types. No other known planet is so suitably placed in the orbit around the energy source i.e the Sun, as the Earth. Nature has created the earth in its super divine design and placed it at a distance where the energies from the Sun such as heat, light, ultraviolet and infrared rays and many other effective energies reach earth in very suitable doses thus making it a perfect habitat for the life.

The rotation of the earth around its axis makes it possible to expose all its parts to the sun in such a manner that every part of it gets energies from the sun in the required amount. Day and night are also formed by this function of the earth. The revolution of the earth around the sun in a slightly oval-shaped orbit makes it possible for it to remain at different distances from the sun which is the cause of different seasons during the year. Is this phenomena not a gift of nature for the mankind and the entire life on earth? Had this not been the case, half of the world would have been in the constant darkness and the rest in a never-ending day, as well as no change in seasons across the globe. Can one imagine such a situation? Could the life sustain on this globe in such situations? Certainly not.

Nature has created a blanket of different gases called Atmosphere around the earth which acts as a medium for the rays of the sun to reach earth and transfer energy. It created a cover of the Ozone layer around the atmosphere in order to replenish the shortfall of life-sustaining Oxygen in the atmosphere. Hundreds of metals and minerals, precious stones and jewels, oils and lubricants, water in streams running over and under the earth’s crust were provided with a definite purpose to support life in all forms, may it be the plant kingdom, reptiles, microbes, birds, animals, and the humans. Earth consists of 70% water in the oceans, lakes, rivers, ponds, and reserve deposits in the form of huge glaciers. Life exists in the water, may it be cold glaciers at a sub-zero temperature or warmer and salty oceans and also in the atmosphere such as germs and microbes.

Nature has provided everything to earth in order to sustain life on it as well in the water bodies and air. The beautiful and amazing marine life compels us to believe in God’s divine creativity.

It is beyond human comprehension to judge the divine Art of nature as to why different minerals were placed in different quantities at different places? Why so many minerals with different attributes were created? Why were rocks of different density formed and why were clay, sand, stones, deserts, mountains formed at some places and not everywhere? Scientists do give different theories to prove their point of view but they don’t fully convince the intellect. Every component of the earth, its density, movements, shape, and size is made with some specific purpose and nothing is without a reason or purpose. Is it humanly possible to create such a complex system and maintain it the way nature is maintaining?

If we look at the different living species on earth we find that they in one or the other form have similar attributes as the earth itself. All have solids, liquids, air, energy and sense in different proportions and require different types of environment to sustain on earth. The earth as discussed above creates a required atmosphere for every living creature out of a complex composition of its constituents. Take the example of humans who are at the top of creation. They fully resemble in many ways with the earth like a child to his mother. Humans too have 70% water in their body like earth. They have the solid mass of different densities. They have hard bones like the rocks in the earth. They too have veins running through the whole body carrying blood and other essentials like the under streams running beneath the earth’s crust. They have growth of hair almost on a major portion of their body like vegetation on the earth. They too keep moving like the earth. They have many types of chemical and saline liquids in their body like the earth which has a mixture of different oils such as crude oil in her body. Humans have the attribute to propagate life by fertilizing the seed and giving birth to their offsprings and the earth too does this by fertilizing the seed which falls in its soil during a particular season and which sprouts out of its bosom as a baby plant and grows by and by to become a grown tree.

It is perhaps because of this relationship of humans with the earth that many call it as Mother Earth.

When the earth is providing us everything for our sustenance, growth, comfort, and development, then, is not this our prime responsibility to keep it neat, clean, and healthy in our own interest? Are we sincerely contributing a bit to keep the earth in a perfectly healthy condition? The answer is a big ‘NO’. Instead, we are leaving no stone unturned to destroy the very delicate balance of nature to satisfy our various tendencies such as greed, superiority complex, taste, and sadistic pleasures and the like. There is no dearth of anything which we actually need on this planet, but still, we extract various items from the earth’s body in order to fill our stores. We are continuously extracting all known metals and minerals, oils, even rocks(marble, granite etc), coal, and precious stones etc. etc. from the body of the earth thereby disturbing its very composition. Although the earth has the quality to slowly and slowly replenish the deficiency created by us, but not at the rate and speed at which we are damaging it. Every metal which has been placed at different locations and at different depths in the earth’s body has a particular strength and they release particular radiations to counter the harmful radiations coming from other planets. Just think,  if we have iron, sodium, potassium, or calcium deficiency in our body, can we lead a healthy life? Earth also suffers when we cause such deficiencies to it.

We are recklessly extracting crude and other oils  from earth’s body thus perhaps removing the lubricants from the bones(Rocks) of the earth with the result that during movement, its joints become stiff, crack like our bones and due to uneven movement of its plates the earthquakes happen to cause a lot of destruction on the surface as well as in the oceans thereby causing great tsunamis which in turn destroy all the development we made by disturbing the nature. We don’t learn any lesson from this and continue our tirade to disturb nature. Earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanic eruptions, windstorms, hurricanes, cloudbursts, floods are all caused by our actions against nature and the earth.

We are polluting the atmosphere by burning coal and oil for power and transport. We risk life by producing atomic energy where any mishap can wipe the entire life from the globe. We have not learned any lesson from the great disasters created by atom bombs that were dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki, instead, we are continuously stockpiling atomic arsenals. We create smoke pollution by burning coal, wood and grass. We pollute rivers, lakes and other water bodies by throwing garbage and factory pollutants in them. We are polluting the oceans by throwing deadly missiles, and other bombs in them thus destroying the marine life. We are cutting the forests and building multi-story buildings thus converting green cover into brown habitats. Excessive use of electric and electronic gadgets is creating E-pollution. The hospital wastage full of infections, dangerous atomic wastage, electronic wastage, and plastic wastage is either dumped or thrown into the water bodies causing irreparable damage to the environment, ecology, and atmosphere.  We are extracting water from underground sources thereby disturbing the underground water table. All this is adding to the global warming and the air pollution which are very dangerous for all type of life on the earth. We are in a way digging our own graves. Unless we mend our ways, the day is not far when the earth will not bear this torture and will tremble out of pain and nothing will withstand the force of the great upheavals.

Still, there is time to mend our ways and use the abundant resources which nature has provided us in a proper manner without disturbing its balance in any manner.

Saving the earth is the responsibility of every one of us. We can’t put it on to the governments. No government can do anything without the contribution of its subjects. We do need energy, but, it is not necessary to disturb nature for that, as it has provided us with the abundance of resources for the green energy. Hydro-power, wind energy, and solar power are the best sources of renewable energy. Some intellectuals advice us to save water for the future. Not only water, we have to save all other resources and not to waste anything. Can’t we just copy the natures beautiful water management system? How nature transports pure water from the oceans which otherwise have salty water to all over the plains and mountains. If we don’t conserve water it is our fault and not nature’s. Can’t we resort to water harvesting in a big way and conserve water bodies. Nature stores water as reserves for us in lakes and ponds as well as on the mountain tops in the form of glaciers which continue melting and providing regular supply through rivers and streams. These rivers can be used to transport goods and merchandise thus reducing vehicular pollution. There will never be a dearth of anything on earth as nature knows the art of keeping a balance by itself. It is only we the humans who disturb the balance of nature and so suffer at its hands.

All eighty-four lac species(as per scriptures) existing on the earth are contributing in one or the other way to the conservation of ecology, environment, and health of the earth except Humans. It is only the humans who always remain unsatisfied and contribute to polluting and disturbing the beautiful balance of nature.

It is in our own interest to take care of our  Mother Earth, which provides us with almost everything in a neat, clean and healthy condition. Let us do this in a mission mode religiously and with utmost sincerity. This needs to be passed on to the younger generations from the very childhood; only then we can pass on a healthy and worth living planet to the coming generations.

PARENTING AND GRANDPARENTING. PART- 2

As already discussed in part-1,(PARENTING AND GRANDPARENTING. Part- 1) parenting and grandparenting never cease to exist till we live; these only undergo a change from one to the other. The attachment (Moh) with children is responsible for the propagation of life on this planet. Just think for a while, if the parents don’t care about the new-born babies, the life will come to an end. Nature creates attachment in the hearts of parents and grandparents for the baby before he or she takes birth. From day one nature provides the new-born with two permanent and dedicated caretakers in the form of mother and father, who sacrifice their everything for the upbringing of their child. Nature creates milk in the breasts of the mother on the birth of new-born so that he can be fed till he is able to take solid food. The moment he needs solid food, nature gives teeth to the baby and when he needs more hard food, the delicate milk teeth are replaced automatically with the set of hard teeth. Nature has its own way of working and it works through the medium of its creation.

Anyway, the aim of good parenting is to shape the future of the child in such a way that he is able to face the world with courage and contribute a lot to the welfare of the future generations as well as to the nation, and to the mankind.

The initial five years of child’s life are very crucial. He makes a lot of efforts to learn to speak, sit, stand, walk, play, interact and understand many things including pre-nursery education. By nature, he is a keen watcher and a fast learner, parents have therefore to be very cautious about their child. No quarreling, no shouting, no harsh words, no punishments for and before your child. Always remain positive, friendly, and cool before him. Teach him to respect elders, socialize with people, obey elders, avoid arguments, give suitable time to his studies and playing games. He should be taught, rather encouraged to share his toys and eatables with other family members and friends. Sharing and caring can be taught only at this age. When he is to go to school, do take care of his health and hygiene. Teach him to wash hands before and after meals, clean his nose whenever required with a handkerchief. Do help him in taking bath and using the toilet till he learns to do the same.

From the sixth year onwards the child learns a lot about his family, relatives, friends, and surroundings. The child at this stage needs to be disciplined and his thought and energies properly channelized. He should be encouraged to follow a proper daily routine, like going to bed, getting up early, a little morning walk or exercise, taking a bath, getting ready for school in time, checking his school bag to ensure that all necessary books, notebooks, lunchbox, water bottle etc are properly kept inside. After school, do interact with him to make him comfortable so that before taking his meals he is off from the school fatigue. Help him in getting fresh and in changing his clothes. Give him time for playing, watching a programme of his choice on TV, help him in completing his homework. Both parents, as well as grandparents, should be quite friendly with them and understand their weaknesses and strong points, as only then they will be in a position to provide good counseling and support for the overall development in their child’s character and behavior. They should take care, recognize, and appreciate the interests and choices of their children. The children at this stage must be made to understand the difference between a good and a bad touch as well as the way to react in case of such an eventuality.

During the period of juvenility, there is an element of the immaturity of thought and conduct in the behavior of a child. This period is very crucial in the life of a child. Parents, as well as grandparents, need to keep a strict and secret watch on the behavior and activities of their child especially in the present times when everything is available on the internet with the press of a button. Give more time to the child, be more friendly with them and keep them engaged in studies, games, and other extracurricular activities so that they don’t remain idle. It is always advisable to engage the child in the decision making on small family issues and give recognition to their point of view so that they feel their importance and remain attached to the family. Please remember that an idle man’s brain is devil’s workshop. Don’t let his mind become a Devil’s workshop. This is a stage when the parents may have to be strict sometimes in order to discipline their child. The old proverb ‘Spare the rod and spoil the child’ is to be kept in mind by the parents. The grandparents at this stage should not interfere with the hard decisions of the child’s parents and rather should keep cool.

Parents have sometimes to take tough decisions in the interests of their child and the child being more close and comfortable with the grandparents, may try to attract their sympathies and support in order to oppose the decision and behavior of his parents towards him. Grandparents should never support the child, instead, they should, politely and with love, try to make the child understand the point of view of his parents and support the view in the overall interests of the child.

Once the child becomes major and completes his education, do provide him support and guidance for choosing and starting his career…………… Then the marriage of the child and his life takes a new turn. Shortly the parents will become grandparents and the grandparents will become great-grandparents or the Gone-grandparents and the Life will keep on changing positions. Please keep on passing the family values and traditions to the future generations. Family traditions and the family values are the roots which must remain strong to keep the family tree growing and developing.

THE DESERTED MANSIONS

From the time immemorial, Man has been building big mansions to live in happily for himself and for the generations to come. He has been building big castles and strong forts for his safety and security.

But has he achieved his desired objectives? If we look at those huge ruins today, we find the dwellers missing. These deserted mansions are dying slowly but steadily. Have the strong forts and big castles saved his life from death?

All these huge buildings are decaying, crumbling, and being consumed by insects as there is no one to take care of them. Wild bushes and big trees have taken roots in their sturdy walls and roofs. Once magnificent mansions, have now become a home for the rats, bats, vampires, cats, and monkeys. Some of these, once beautiful structures, are now haunted by the ghosts. The beautiful and priceless paintings in the magnificent halls and rooms are covered with spider webs and dust; no one to appreciate their beauty and take care of their maintenance. Has the person who got them built with so much wealth and passion, ever thought of the fate, his proud possessions would one day meet with such a pitiable condition? If by chance he again comes to human life with all his old passion and memory and visits his choicest possessions: Can anyone imagine how he would feel? He would definitely repent as to why he committed such a great blunder in his life……

Humans have the tendency of ignoring the history and trying to derive satisfaction and happiness from the huge possessions. Instead of achieving satisfaction and happiness from the possessions, they become restless while creating such possessions. Their cravings for more and more keep them toiling restlessly and sometimes they have to sacrifice the values of life and good principles of humanity. How can one derive happiness and satisfaction by such means? This is the dilemma of life and a Mirage which keeps one running until the end.

Happiness and satisfaction are not in the possessions, but these are in the contentment. A man with a contented heart is the richest of all and the one with greed and discontented heart is worst than a beggar even if he has abundant of wealth. We should take a lesson from the history and lead a simple and contented life and should always thank the Almighty for whatever he has bestowed upon us.

Whatever you can use in your life is actually yours. What you keep on possessing without using is a waste; for others to use. One keeps on building mansions, forgetting that lifespan is very short and he may not get the opportunity to enjoy his living in those mansions which he created with so much toil.

If we take a look at the present times, nothing seems to have changed. There is no dearth of big mansions which are empty as there is no one to live in. Those for whom, their ancestors had built these huge buildings have either migrated to other cities or abroad for their living.

We care more about our future generations than for ourselves, little realizing that if we are able enough to live our life comfortably as per socialistic and societal standards , will our future generation not be able to do anything for themselves? Why such a negative thought takes root in our mind? If we could do something ourselves, Our future generations would do better than us. With such a positive attitude, live your life happily lest you may have to repent afterward.

PLEASURES OF RETIRED LIFE

The golden period of your life starts when you retire from the active service or from active business/profession. This is the period when you can enjoy the Life as per your own choice and with full freedom without any worries, provided:-

  • You have Settled all your liabilities during the active period of your life.
  • Your children have settled professionally and personally.
  • You have a place to live which you can call your own Home; with your family who cares for you.
  • You have suitable pension or an accumulated pension fund to meet your needs.
  • And above all, You and Your spouse have maintained Good Health and a good understanding of each other.

If you look back to your pre-retirement days; You were so tight scheduled and having no time for your life partner, no time for family trips or even pilgrimage. You were always requesting leaves so that you could share time with your loved ones but the boss always frowned upon you with most typical lines,”You have so much of  pending work, how can you even think of going on leave???” and You listened to all this with a bowed head out of sheer compulsion. Your blood pressure rose during supervisor’s visits and his reprimands. The multitasking activities both in office and at home kept you under constant stress. Even when you tried to calm your mind through meditation and tried your best to concentrate, you couldn’t because the angry face of your boss always occupied the upper layers of your mind. You were more loyal to the ticking sound of your clock or the office or factory siren than anything else in this universe.

Now the Life is completely different after retirement, you are free from all those shackles, pulls and pressures? Don’t you now feel yourself nearer to GOD than ever before? Now you have enough time for everything of your choice. Now you are the boss of your own wishes and wills. You are now a free bird, so enjoy your flight of life like a bird. Keep on chirping, land at places you like, eat what you like to eat, and dance with your partner the way you both like.

Now, this is the time for you to enjoy the fruits and charms of freedom. Is not this amazing that the entire twenty-four hours of the day and all three hundred sixty-five and a quarter days of the year are your’s and your’s only? Every day is a holiday; a holiday for which you had to wait for five to six days in a week and you were never sure if the boss would call you on holiday for some urgent work. All your plans to enjoy on the weekly off used to be marred by such compulsions. Now no compulsions, as you are boss of your own self, so enjoy, enjoy and enjoy only. Remove all, from the life that comes between you and your happiness, your peace of mind, and GOD; be it a dispute, grudge, hate, anger or a complex.

Always try to remain happy and fearless. Don’t interfere in the affairs of others especially your own children. You may give advice if asked for, but let them have their own way. Don’t try to squeeze the generation gap as it will generate reactions and disturb your and family harmony.

Always be on the path of truth and don’t fear anything, not even your death. Whatever has to happen will happen; you can’t change it, then why worry; face it smilingly. At the same time don’t take much liberty of your freedom because everything will not happen as per your choice  Everyone can’t have similar choices and wishes, these differ from person to person, so let GOD decide what to do for you. The BIG BOSS is boss of the whole universe and loves us all. He takes care of all of us so don’t doubt his intentions. The best is, to surrender before Him and live to His will. You can’t change circumstances but you can change your attitude, so change it according to the times and always remain positive.

You are at the ripe age, so remember that you are the most beautiful human being. A fruit is more beautiful when it is ripe and so are you. Feel this beauty inside and outside you. Don’t expose yourself to risks such as investments in share markets, crypto currencies, Ponzi schemes or in any scheme of volatile nature because a ripe fruit can’t afford to withstand the winds and jerks of risks.

You are now more close to nature. Grow plants and watch them sprout out of the soil, and then growing into plants with tiny and shining leaves, flowering with magnificent colors and then bearing fruits and seeds. The pearl-like tiny dew drops on the leaves of plants and the grass in the morning are an amazing miracle to see.

Some people complain that they have too much spare time so they get bored. Getting bored in the twenty-first century is an impossible proposition. Make use of eighth and ninth wonders of the world if you luckily have both. The eighth wonder is your spouse who in spite being illiterate or less qualified, or even more qualified than you, remained with you through thick and thin when all nears and dears left you in adversity. You at this age have an exceptional understanding of each other. No one understands your mood, feelings and needs better than your better half. How beautifully she/he adjusts to every situation however difficult it may be. Is not that great wonder?

Your mobile phone is the ninth wonder of the world. Through the internet, you remain connected with the whole world. You can have any information available with the touch of a button. You can play games, read books of all types, see pictures of cities and places of the world over, watch movies and listen to music of your choice, share greetings and other messages with your friends and talk face to face with your relatives and friends living in any part of the globe.

So enjoy your retired life in a Smart Way. Don’t remain stuck to TV or mobile phone or your bed. Go for morning and evening walks even if for short distances. Do talk to and play with your grandchildren whenever you are with them. Play with kids of your locality. This will bring freshness and spirit of youthfulness in you.

You are lucky if you are enjoying Retired life, so thank God and keep smiling, meet friends, associates. Do some social service for the society without any considerations. Each day is a bonus for you. No one knows how much time we will get to stay in this beautiful world, so make the best use of whatever little time you have at your disposal. Do as much good as you can and remain as much contended as possible.